The returning couple from the 90 Day Fiancé franchise had a candid conversation about their relationship’s difficulties after a fight on the boat, concentrating on Statler’s anxiety and Dempsey’s dissatisfaction with the former’s communication style under pressure.

The two were able to come to an understanding despite their differences and expressed a desire to get past the difficult times in their relationship.

The 14th episode of 90 Day Fiancé: The Other Way, which aired on September 30, focused on a crucial point in their adventure. Statler, who suffers from anxiety, expressed her need for Dempsey to understand her emotional limits during anxiety episodes.

She asked Dempsey to give her space when she’s overwhelmed and to not take it personally when Statler struggles to communicate during such times. However, Dempsey, feeling hurt, pointed out that being spoken to rudely was not acceptable, stating:

“I am not gonna stand for you being rude to me all the time because you’re feeling a certain way.”
90 Day Fiancé: The Other Way – A conversation about anxiety and support
The conversation began with Statler referencing their previous fight, stating:

“I am not thrilled by the way things went down on the ferry.”
Dempsey agreed, replying:

“No, me neither.”
The issue revolved around how Statler communicated while feeling overwhelmed. Statler admitted that she didn’t want Dempsey to approach her when she was at her emotional ‘limit’. She said:

“When you do see me reaching the point of, I’m over my limit, like maybe not the time to try to come talk to me… I need you to be not offended by it.”
Dempsey, while understanding Statler’s struggles, expressed her difficulty in dealing with her behavior during these moments, saying:

“But I am gonna be offended if you’re rude to me.”
She emphasized that while she wanted to be there for Statler, she couldn’t continue feeling disrespected. Statler, in response, clarified that her intention was never to be rude but acknowledged her long-standing battle with anxiety, explaining:

“I’ve had anxiety my entire life. I’ve tried multiple therapists, I’ve tried multiple medications, and I don’t have it figured out.”
This emotional exchange showcased the challenges the couple faced while trying to balance love and mental health struggles. Dempsey reassured Statler, saying she didn’t want her to feel anxious, but added that she couldn’t help Statler if she continued to feel this way:

“s**t in myself because of the way you’re speaking to me.”
Dempsey’s confession and Statler’s apology in 90 Day Fiancé: The Other Way
In a confession to the producers of 90 Day Fiancé: The Other Way, Dempsey opened up about how difficult it was to deal with someone who has high anxiety. She said:

“I feel really guilty to say it, but dealing with somebody with such high anxiety is really-really hard.”
Dempsey acknowledged that living together or traveling together could be the ultimate test of a relationship, and doing both with Statler in a van was proving to be a significant challenge. She even questioned if this might have been one of the worst decisions she’d made, as it was making her rethink the relationship.

Statler, understanding the gravity of the situation, raised a critical question: could Dempsey live with her anxiety and still accept her as she is? Dempsey reassured her, stating that she wanted to be there for her, but not when Statler was being rude.

Statler found this understandable and apologized, expressing her commitment to working on her behavior and the relationship. She also apologized for the earlier incident on the ferry when she wasn’t in the right state of mind to talk.

Despite the challenges, the couple ended the conversation on a hopeful note. They both expressed a desire to move forward without further conflict, with Statler telling Dempsey:

“I want to be happy and free like you.”
Statler also acknowledged that Dempsey’s ability to get over conflicts quickly was a positive trait, but admitted that she needed more support when dealing with her anxiety, saying in a confessional:

“I need someone who is going to be able to control my panic attacks because my anxiety isn’t just something that is just gonna go away.”