While Kalani tried to defend her actions, many social media users in the comments section weren’t impressed with her take. An Instagram user asked, “How did it improve your marriage though?” Another commented, “It’s not ok that he did it. However you doing it doesn’t make it even.” Fans shared that Kalani’s statement didn’t make sense because nobody said Asuelu’s cheating was okay. They felt that the 35-year-old mom was using it as an excuse to put all the blame on her husband and not take responsibility for her terrible actions. Someone even wrote a logical statement and asked, “Why not get a divorce if u gotta go thru this??”

Some fans cheered for Kalani in the comments section and applauded her for hurting Asuelu. They made it seem like Kalani’s adultery was better than her husband’s cheating. However, it isn’t the case. Both Kalani and Asuelu are equally responsible for the situation they got themselves into. The mom of two shouldn’t have taken the hall pass out of respect for her side of the vows. She should have divorced Asuelu first and found another man to build a mutually respectful relationship. Kalani would’ve benefited the most if she had shown some maturity.

Marriage is a sacred bond that requires honesty, sacrifices, and love. It isn’t a fighting contest where partners try to one-up each other. Asuelu did a horrible thing to cheat on the mother of his kids. If Kalani had broken up with him on the spot and filed for divorce, he would’ve had to live with knowing that he had destroyed his marriage. However, she used her hall pass. That hurt her by making her feel guilty and gave Asuelu a reason to feel like he wasn’t the only one who ruined the relationship. Kalani’s tears on the 90 Day Fiancé spin-off show she made the wrong call by going against her ethics.